In this new generation, sensuality is often mixed up with the giving of yourself as a an object and in the context of your body and sex, many young girls are confusing sensuality with having sex rather than a close intimate relationship with themselves as a woman and then with a partner depending on age, development etc. The dictionary meaning is the gratification of the senses, leading on to sexual sensations. As women, sometimes in the desperation to feel loved and accepted, a woman may use her body as an object and therefore may not feel sensual. Some woman never see themselves as a sensual being, or that their body parts are attractive in a sexual way, especially to others.
Relating this to breast cancer, some women that have I have consulted with have explained that they were ‘tom boys’ when they were children. As they grew up as women they never could understand the womanly growths such as breasts growing, menstrual cycles and more. Some of these women did not want to see themselves as it brought up that they felt like a sexual toy for someone else which closed their own personal door to sensuality.
Jo was a ‘tom boy’ as a child. Her name was Josephine but she never liked this name as preferred Jo. She never related to being a girl and loved playing with the boys. As a teenager Jo tried to have relationships with boys but it always a ‘one night stand’ or just sex as she could not relate to the sensuality within herself. Jo could never connect with her body especially when her breast grew or when she commenced menstrual cycle. Jo was angry she had breast cancer and had decided to have a radical mastectomy. Her Specialist had suggested she have both breasts removed ‘just in case’ to which she was happy. Yet she only had cancer in her right breast and it was not in her lymph nodes either. It was an awareness that she did not know how to allow herself to enjoy the sensuality of sex and the senses of sex. Jo had a fear of emotional and physical intimacy with anyone and that included herself. This resulted in creating breast cancer.
Jo was given strategies to overcome these concepts and also put on to Sensuality Oral essence. Jo chose to have a partial mastectomy rather than bilateral and was able to share with me that she had a loving and very intimate relationship. She was able to feel passion and receive sensual fulfilment. Two years later, she had a follow up appointment to which she stated her breast cancer was non existent and she was pregnant.
Copyright Jean Sheehan